The Amazing Game that Makes Others Love You
There is a little-known game that, if played correctly, will make anyone more amazing at relationships — and life in general.
Play along and you will see.
Imagine there was an entire country comprised only of clones of you. Try to envision — in as much detail as possible — what it would be like.
Now imagine you had to create a Wikipedia page about this country. What would be its biggest strengths? What would be its greatest weaknesses? What social fabric problems would it have?
If you have trouble at first, you can do this same exercise a few times, but first substituting in others you know to give you an idea of what it can teach you.
The reason why this thought exercise is so powerful is because it amplifies all of your character traits — good and bad — to an extreme degree. It will show you what you are doing that turns others off.
For example, if you have a short fuse and a bad temper, imagine how much hostility would exist in that place, and what a troubling place it would be to live in. If you cut others off in traffic with no remorse, imagine what a disaster it would become if everyone in your entire country drove that way.
If you don't see projects through to the end, imagine the entire country functioning this way, which could lead to economic troubles.
If you are flaky and apathetic about others' wants and needs, imagine if everyone acted that way.
If you’re too judgmental of others and try to bring them down rather than wanting to see them have fun, imagine living in a country with no entertainment, no arts, no music, no nightlife, and how boring and unhappy it would become.
Now, think about the ideal type of place you’d want to live in.
What traits should it have? How should the individuals act and treat one another? Is it possible to create a way of living and being such that if all of the clones acted that way, things would become amazing, and there wouldn’t be any problems?
Once you can clearly see this vision in your mind, you now have the exact blueprint to become the type of individual who almost everyone will enjoy being around. The secret sauce here is empathy. Through utilizing our empathy to understand how we impact others — and uncover our blind spots — it makes us capable of cultivating relationships that fulfill us at the highest levels.